Life is a big mess, and that is very good. Our schooling and social conditionings have been teaching us thousands of methods to rule out the mess, but no one has succeeded. I think of the secret of happiness is not to stop the mess as many of us have thought, but to make a beautiful and honest mess of your own. Conversely,the secret of stress is to rule out the mess HERE AND NOW, with great urgency, so all the juice and beauty of the mess is under-appreciated and thus lost.